The Peeve of My Christianese

In a blog post a while back, I addressed the uniquely
acquired native language of my people. We speak Christianese. We talk in code
to one another. We gush it out to the unredeemed, who don’t understand it. With
enough exposure, they pass it back and forth amongst themselves, injecting
their own dialect until the words become palatable. One of the more commonly
used idioms of Church people (and other people) has become a pet peeve of mine.
I’m not sure why. Perhaps it’s my cynical nature that makes me question the
motive behind throwing this bone at someone in distress without any reference
to Scripture or offer (serious offer) of prayer.
Before I tell you my peeve, let me state that I am not caving
under unbearable burdens, though I do have some bearable ones. I’m not falling
into unpardonable sin, though I do from time to time get a nudge from the
Spirit warning me to turn around and go the other way. And I haven’t failed to
get back up after being knocked down. But maybe I haven’t been knocked as low
as the guy who just got served with this catch-all from a Christian. Here’s my peeve: “God will
never give you more than you can handle.” 
With my cynic’s ear, this is what I hear when someone shares
that gem with a hurting, broken, scared-to-death soul: “Well I don’t know about
you, but I could handle it.” Or, “That’s too bad. Let me know when it’s over.”
Or, “What do you expect me to do about it?”
Of course, most people mean well. They will pray. If they really love the person, they’ll pray hard and
they’ll assist with handling the situation purportedly given by God. I asked a
pastor friend to share his thoughts. He had a different explanation of why
people say this. His viewpoint is more sensitive than mine, and I appreciate
his sympathetic reasoning.
Here’s what he said:
“I believe Christians quote the phrase because they want to believe it
in its most basic meaning.  They truly want to believe that a loving God
would not allow anything to happen to confessing Christians beyond what they
physically or spiritually can handle.  It’s a mantra that we repeat often
in the hopes that it will be true; but deep down we have our doubts and
misgivings. Do I believe it’s true? Yes, but I think there is more to the
issue.  Can I handle the death of a family member or will I be deeply
affected by their death in such a way that I’m changed for the negative? If I lost
everything as Job did would I be crushed to the point of suicide or would I do
a Phoenix and rise from the ashes?  I don’t know but I’m sure my
all-knowing God does.  Thank God I’ve not been “tested” to that degree
In moving past cliché to
understanding, one Bible verse must be considered the crux of this popular
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to
mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you
can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you
can endure it.” 
I Corinthians 10:13
is God’s assurance He will not leave us to face temptation on our own. That’s
what the verse is about. We shouldn’t make anything else out of it.
While there is no verse in the Bible to specifically tell us
God won’t give us more than we can handle, a theme is present to encourage us
that by the grace of God we can survive immeasurable burden. The key here is
grace. Without it, we really are completely hopeless. The Bible does portray
some as being given more than they could handle on their own. And some verses
make it hard to believe we can handle anything considering who we are and who
God is:
Who can stand
before His indignation? Who can endure the burning of His anger? His wrath is
poured out like fire and the rocks are broken up by Him.
Nahum 1:6
For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and
unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth.
Romans 1:18
light of the truth that we are helplessly lost without the grace of Christ to
rescue us, the sentiment that we can “handle it” seems almost anti-gospel. God
allows sin to affect us all in the most detrimental way, and we absolutely can’t
handle it. That’s why we need salvation.
said, “Without me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5) Paul said, “When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at
just the right time and died for us sinners.” (Romans 5:6)
in a way, God did give us something we couldn’t handle. And then he handled it.
There’s a catch
to the Christianese. Maybe we can’t handle it. But God can.
so another theme emerges in the Bible: God might give us more than we can
handle so we’ll learn to depend on Him. Isaiah said, “Woe is me! For I am
lost; for I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of a people of
unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the LORD of hosts!”
(Isaiah 6:5). He couldn’t handle being in the presence of
God. But then God used him in a mighty way. David was undone before God by his
own sin, and yet God loved him. Jonah refused to obey and ended up fish bait,
but God saved him. Job, a righteous man, faced greater loss than most of us can
imagine, but God restored and blessed him.
Scripture is filled
with great hope and promise. God will not leave us on our own to face life
(John 16:33), death (Psalm 23), Satan (Ephesians 6:11), temptation (Galatians 5:16), or even the trials we meet daily (Romans 12:12). Still, situations are
sometimes beyond our ability to handle. And it seems like some people, even
Christians, give up on life. They give up on God. I know how that appears from
the outside looking in. But I don’t know what God knows. 
Maybe there should
be a big IF at the end of my peeve proclamation. God won’t give you more than
you can handle if you know Him well. If you follow Him closely. If you admit
you can’t handle it without Him. Or maybe after living all those IFs you’ve
gotten more than you can handle anyway. In that case, maybe you’re just not
meant to handle it. Hang on. God’s got it.
And so perhaps we
who speak Christianese should make a slight alteration to our mantra. Maybe we
just need to change one word: “God will never give you more than HE can handle.”  

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